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  • Writer's pictureSherri Elliott-Yeary

Curious About Sex Toys? Find Your Perfect Match

It’s a peculiar thing to witness: The subject of sex toys can make even the most liberal-minded clam up in a conversation.

But why? It could be that sex education is largely lacking and rarely, if ever, inclusive of how sex toys can lend to healthy and positive experiences.

It could be that most people still don’t know how to use them.

Or it could be that the world of sex toys is so vast that you may find yourself too intimidated to explore it. If it’s the latter, don’t worry — you’re not alone. The key to embracing sex toys is finding one that works for you. Just like shoes and clothes, sex toys aren’t (and shouldn’t be) a “one-size-fits-all.” Your perfect sex toy is out there.

To help you find it, I have rounded up some of my favorites curated for your unique personality.

1. For the eco-friendly: The Dolly Bi

A rightful concern for the environment-minded is how Eco-friendly sex toys are. If you’re worried about draining and tossing batteries into landfills, the Dolly Bi is the perfect toy for our ladies concerned about the environment. Not only does it look like a dolphin, but it also charges using a magnetic USB. That means no more changing batteries — or trying to find a friend that can do that for you.

The Dolly Bi is made of silicone, is waterproof, and has accessible controls. This means it’s easy to start, stop, or change vibration patterns mid-use. It’s also incredibly easy to lock, meaning you don’t need to worry about vibrating while you travel!

Plus, the pleasure level is oh-so-good. The design of this vibrator makes it perfect for dual vaginal and clitoral stimulation, just like classic rabbit vibrators.

I give this toy an 8 STARS out of 10 because it is a great starter vibrator and is easy to clean and it is not going to break the bank.

2. For the Girls Who Like Bling: The Crave Vesper

I was given one of these when they first came out. One of my married girlfriends mentioned she was having a hard time achieving an orgasm with clitoral stimulation, so I gave her my Crave (it had never been used). My sweet husband knew how much I liked the Crave Vesper, so he got me a solid gold one monogrammed to Zensual Gal, this one I am using and keeping!

If you’re known for your one-of-a-kind style and unique statement jewelry pieces, adore the Crave Vesper. And if Jane Fonda loves it enough to wear it on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show,” you know there’s something special about this toy.

The pendant is lightweight but packs a serious punch, both in design and vibration. It’s a very quiet vibrator, especially on the lowest setting. And because it’s stainless steel, it’s easy to clean. The Vesper has four speeds and charges via USB. It’s splash-proof, but not waterproof, so don’t submerse it. It’s important to note that the Crave Vesper is only meant for vulvar or clitoral stimulation, and is not for vaginal use.

I give this toy a 7.5 out 10 because of the cost of it and its limited power but it’s a beautiful necklace that is sure to spark conversation at your next dinner party.

3. For the Lady Who Wants Variety: The Original Magic Wand

This massage wand is arguably one of the most popular sex toys out there, especially for women with sore muscles from workouts: It can be a lifesaver for both sex and massage. As someone who lives with chronic illnesses, this wand is great for releasing the knots in your neck and back.

It’s worth noting that the Magic Wand is corded, requiring you to plug it in. But I love the easy-to-use controls and pulsating function. And even better, you can purchase various attachments for the head of this wand to really customize your experience how you like it.

I have literally given many of these to many of my single girlfriends, because the magic wand has variable speeds and is the perfect toy to help you learn to squirt.

I give this toy a 10 out of 10 STAR rating.

4. For the tech geek: The Vibease Esthesia

Are you always on the forefront of the latest tech? If you’re all about having the latest and greatest tech gadgets to make your life easier (and more fun), you’ll love the Esthesia. Like the Dolly Bi, the Esthesia is a super quiet rabbit vibrator made of silicone. It’s waterproof and recharges via USB.

But what really makes this toy special is its synchronization with your existing tech. You can sync up the vibrations with your audiobooks or allow your partner to text you the vibration patterns from anywhere around the world! The Vibease app allows you to create custom vibrations, too. There’s always something new and fun to discover with this sex toy.

I have not personally tried this toy, but my girlfriends give it an 8 out 10 Stars.

5. For the fitness lover: Vagi Yoga

Did you know that one-third of women have some form of pelvic floor disorder? You might have heard about ways you can strengthen your pelvic floor muscles at home. But these can’t be nearly as fun as using a fun little toy to help.

The Vagi Yoga was created and prescribed by doctors, this is a personal system that may help you strengthen the pelvic floor muscles even after pregnancy, regain lost tone and may help improving blood supply. It will strengthen the muscles associated with bladder control and incontinence. Kegel exercises will help tighten your pelvic muscles; effective treatment can be as simple as a 15-minute workout per day!

The Vagi Yoga is user-friendly and is rechargeable, seamless, waterproof, easy to use, easy to clean and maintain. It will help you find and work the right muscles by managing, monitoring, and telling you how well you are doing the exercises. It comes with clear and precise instructions.

I have not personally tried this toy because I use the Jade Egg to do Kegel exercises, but my yogi friends give it a 9 out 10 Stars.

6. For the bold and adventurous: B-Vibe Trio Plug Waterproof Remote Control Vibrating Anal Toy

Anal play isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. But if you’re into it, it can be super fun! Most toys can be used anally if they have a flared base. If they don’t, toys can get lost, necessitating an embarrassing trip to the hospital.

The B-Vibe Trio Plug is a great starter for anyone getting into anal play. If you’re already experienced in this area, the vibration factor makes it fun for you as well.

An accompanying remote control makes it easy to change vibrations on your own, something that not all vibrating plugs offer. That makes the B-Vibe even more accessible!

A note about anal play: Lube is necessary! Make sure to use a thicker water-based lubricant and apply liberally!

If you are curious about anal play, try this toy alone or with your partner. I give this 8 out of 10 Stars.


As you can see, there are all kinds of sex toys to match our personalities, interests, and abilities. The most important thing to remember when you’re looking at toys is to find one that uses body-safe materials and to always buy from reputable shops like those listed above.

And, of course, have fun! Sex should be fun and make you feel confident and empowered. It’s your body, so enjoy it and own it. What kind of sex toy is your personality yearning for?

Live with Joy and Passion,

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