Nine Women Share What An Orgasm Feels Like
If someone asked you to explain how a woman knows she's had an orgasm, you might struggle for the right words before summing it up with an all-purpose, “You just know.”
But since every woman experiences orgasm in her own unique way, the fact is, not all of us will "just know." And because there's more than one type of orgasm (clitoral orgasms can feel different than a G-spot orgasm or multiple orgasms, for example), the variation in what hitting that high note feels like is enormous.
So in the interest of sex-positive research and to give women who aren't 100% sure that what they feel during sex qualifies as an orgasm, I posed this question to a few of my girlfriends: What exactly do you experience as you're heading toward O-town, and what kind of moves and strokes get you there?
Here's what nine very descriptive women told me. Names have been changed to protect their identities.
"Something washes over my body"
“I have only orgasmed with my close sexual partners, and even then, it's not something that is guaranteed in any way. I only have one orgasm typically per sexual activity, while some girls I know get multiple orgasms. I would describe it as something that washes over my entire body. Almost like chills throughout, but my body is heating up instead.” —Susan, 28
"It's like fantastical energy"
“It feels to me like some fantastical energy being pent up and unable to be realized, and all of a sudden, you let go, and that energy is suddenly very real. The other analogy and more how I feel emotionally, so deeply connected, as if a river of consciousness connects me to him in the present moment. And then, in the exact split second of orgasm, there is no separation. It’s beautiful.” —Cara, 32
"I get a pulsing between my legs"
“Penetrative sex doesn’t do it for me; clitoral stimulation is the only way I orgasm. It’s like an adrenaline rush to the head, like a pulsing from between my legs up through the rest of my body, and concludes in some sort of physical relief, like squeezing or yelling. The more yelling allowed, the better! Then, after it’s done, all my body wants to do is snuggle.” — Taylor, 51
"I'm on the tallest drop of a roller coaster"
“I would explain it like a ticklish, hot wave . . . starting from the center of my vagina and moving out toward my fingertips and toes, a building energy. At the same time, when my clit is stimulated just right, the sensitivity there causes me to get a lightheaded rush that feels kind of like I’m on the tallest drop of a roller coaster.” —Ana, 38
"There's nothing like it—the best feeling in the world"
“When I achieve orgasm, it’s the best feeling in the world; there really is nothing like it. Mine only lasts a few seconds, and it is very hard for me to achieve another orgasm after the first, but when I feel the walls of my vagina contract, oh my, the pleasure is so intense.” —Cassandra, 20
“It's an overwhelming warmth"
“For me, an orgasm feels like overwhelming warmth to start. I can suddenly feel every nerve ending, and everything below the belt is emphasized. Then, when the orgasm finally happens, it’s just these waves of pleasure throughout my body, and a physical release.” —Carly, 30
"I'm consumed completely"
“The sexual energy ebbs and flows slowly, and then builds until it is in control of every energy center in my body. It’s as if the energy creates a whirlpool with all the sacred waters in my being. It starts off as a gentle current, but builds to such a powerful force that I’m consumed completely. And then spit out on the other end, in an parallel universe of which I’m not even sure of how I got to, but where the waters are perfectly still, comforting, and protective.” —Mary Beth, 48
“Electricity surges through my whole body"
“With a G-spot orgasm, through traditional intercourse, this glorious sensation is like electricity surging through my whole body. I know instantly when my husband has hit that G-spot. I tighten myself around him and ride this wave, shivers of euphoria. The perfect tickle, the perfect kiss, the perfect massage all rolled into one glorious moment where I lose all control of my senses.” —Sam, 44
“An explosion erupts through my body”
“I just want to clench up and enjoy the explosion that’s erupting throughout my entire body. It feels overwhelming yet so magnificent at the same time.” - Zee
Now you know.
Live with joy and passion,